Why is it that we feel liberated when we receive the acceptance from others? When it comes to making decisions it is always better to seek council. However, seeking council does not equate to seeking acceptance and approval by those around us.
It is normal to get wrapped up in the idea of approval over time. It feels safer to have the acceptance and support from others when we are faced with decisions. When we have a support system we feel more confident walking into the unknown.
Typically, society says you have to be accomplished and and earn your way approved before you are accepted. I am grateful that God says other wise. God has already loved and accepted us without ever having to earn or prove a single thing.
Why do we seek approval if we already have access? We have access to God and what he has to say about us. We have access to his presence and his kingdom regardless of people’s opinions are.
Unfortunately, we have all experienced let down or disappointment in some way in our life. It’s possible that our pain has left in us vacant voids. The need for validation is rooted in the absence of value. We cannot expect validation to fulfill our internal voids. Seeking validation from others will always fall short and the reward is temporary.
In order to be approved, it requires a validator. Meaning, that it makes us subject to someones else’s standard and opinion. Aren’t we worth more than just an opinion? Who is validating you? I would rather trust in what God says who is sovereign than anyone with an opinion that is substandard.
Earning peoples approval is not our assignment. Our fulfillment and satisfaction should come from meeting our purpose in doing God’s good and perfect will.
When we are starved for validation we start performing under peer-pressure. This is when we start trying to meet the expectations of others just to be noticed. We begin exhausting ourselves trying to be acknowledged and trying to earn our way into acceptance.
A performance driven mentality will lead us to believe in false metrics. We’ll be willing to do things outside of our character and attempt to normalize them. In reality, we become overwhelmed trying to uphold a false image to people with artificial approval. Do not be content with validation that is counterfeit.
Don’t depend on being seen trying to earn approval, acceptance and validation. Rather, learn to trust in God.
When you trust in God’s approval you’ll be at peace with what you do. You will be ok secure when you go unnoticed because God sees in the realm of the unseen. God sees you.