5 Ways how Comparing Yourself is Crushing your Character

“The reason we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind-the-scenes with everyone else’s highlight reel.”

Steven Furtick

It is no appalling discovery to know that mental illness across America has dramatically increased over the recent years. Many variables play a role and factor in to this dilemma. 

According to Mental Health America (MHA) with support of Alkermes, Otsuka America Pharmaceutical Companies, and Neurocine Biosciences; studies have shown that prior to the pandemic 19.86% of adults experienced a mental illness and is equivalent to nearly 50 million Americans. 

Additionally, MHA reports a growing percentage of youth in the U.S. live with major depression and 60% of them do not receive any mental health treatment.

With social media being one of the main powerhouses of self promotion everyone else’s interests and whereabouts are at our fingertips. Consequently this leads to a tendency that I would consider, human nature.

Due to the ease of social media platforms and casual scrolling we are all seduced into a filtered world; a reality that is conveniently misinterpreted. At some point we have all likely been tempted to compare ourselves to someone else’s persona, trendy lifestyle or have been tempted to level up. Well, at least in thought. 

Allowing ourselves to fall into any level of comparison can affect our mental state ultimately altering our mood, the way we perceive ourselves and our own lives. Here are 5 ways how comparing ourselves is crushing our character.

Comparison will make you question your purpose. 

“I wonder what it would be like?” or “Why can’t I have that experience?” “If only I was that privileged.” Once we’re consumed by these types of thoughts plugging ourselves into this idealized imagination we begin to question everything. 

We can go as far as questioning our purpose in life. It can take us to a dark place of abandoning our current position forgetting the future to go attain what our mind has allowed us to believe.  

Questioning where we are in life or considering that we have done it all wrong will only settle us with discontent, unhappiness and feeling depressed. We’ll rarely recognize that it all started with a simple question after scrolling through someone’s post.

Comparison will make you feel the need to compete

Often times our first thought after seeing someones new car, new home, or recent engagement gathering for example, will make us feel as if we need to prove to the world that we can also attain the same. Feeling the need to compete will not always stand out as a byproduct of comparing ourselves to others, but the truth is that it actually is. 

Our own pride will tell us that we need to keep up or at least stand competitively in an unmentioned phantasmal race.

Comparing and competing will remove us from the fulfillment and satisfaction of what we ourselves have accomplished leaving us with the vacant appetency for validation.  

Comparison will make you feel confined in inferiority.

We rarely recognize how great we actually are because we cannot see ourselves. Once you allow your mind to compare you to others we will naturally auto-assign ourselves to the substandard side. 

Repeatedly ending up on the minor end will eventually take a toll on our character affecting our self-esteem, attitude and mood. Comparison will eventually lead to feelings of inadequacy and a confinement of inferiority. 

The need for validation emerges from competing, but rather falling short in our own mind.

Comparison will make you compromise what lies ahead. 

God never intended for you to be them, but He did make you unique for a unique purpose in life. When we compare ourselves we forfeit the greatness we can achieve by simply stepping into a borrowed lane. Instead of making a footprint of our own we limit ourselves to a replica and mediocre version of someone else. 

We must learn to become mentally strong and be comfortable with our identity. The only way we adopt the idea that someone else is doing it better is by comparing ourselves limiting our unique potential. Don’t compromise your own greatness.  

Comparison diminishes your contribution.  

We were not created to compete or to be compared to one another, but to complement the gifts of others and contribute together to this world. As we were created in God’s image we are called to reflect His image not to replicate the image of others. 

When we allow our mind to convince us to stand side by side to others we diminish the power of our effectiveness. Our purpose is to be discovered and developed.

Once we are entrapped in comparison we no longer complement each other rather we inhibit the potential impact of our contributions to the world.

Psalms 73:21-28 When my heart was grieved and my spirit embittered, 22I was senseless and ignorant; I was a brute beast before you. 23Yet I am always with you; you hold me by my right hand. 24You guide me with your counsel, and afterward you will take me into glory. 25Whom have I in heaven but you? And earth has nothing I desire besides you. 26My flesh and my heart may fail, but God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever. 27Those who are far from you will perish; you destroy all who are unfaithful to you. 28But as for me, it is good to be near God. I have made the Sovereign Lord my refuge; I will tell of all your deeds.

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